Wednesday, May 16, 2012

Friends and Enemies

Let me begin with an update that will keep me calm:  My boy Thunder has been diagnosed with a mass on his bladder, most likely cancer.  Waiting for the doc to call me today to discuss medications that can slow the progression a bit.  His urine has had blood in it for while now, and he has his little accidents on hard surfaces (luckily!  easier to clean!) in the house during day when not there, and at night when sleeping (not him, me).  Otherwise, he is still as happy as a clam, very playful, loves his walkies, eats like a horse, and drinks like a fish (do fish actually drink?).  I find myself paying more attention to him, greeting him with a longer scratch and rub when he comes to the door, wagging his tail, when I walk through it after work.  I have always only given him one cup of dry food and half a can of wet once a day since I've had him.  I now want to give him more.  I wonder if that would be ok.  Maybe I will ask the vet that when I speak to him, along with 'how long he has left'.  I wonder if veterinarians can answer that like a medical doctor can for a human with cancer.


My boy Scooter is still lethargic and not doing anything but sleeping, but I have managed to give him water with a syringe, and I plop wet food in front of him and he has managed to eat more than half of it, daily.  Same with my Cosmo.  He lost four pounds in the past two weeks, he is skin, bones, and belly fat below.  He moves around, eats a tiny bit and drinks a tiny bit.  I am also giving him a dental antibiotic which was prescribed on Saturday when I took him to the vet, along with Sugar, because of the odor coming from Cosmos' mouth.  No sign of decay on teeth, but prescribed it anyway.  Sugar is doing better with ear drops, and was given an injection of antibiotic to treat URI.  I continue to treat Jack, Barney and Smokey with Doxy for their URI's and they seem to be getting better.  Its a sickly house, but a happy one.  Mike is doing well - I picked him back up from Brad's house on Saturday after learning he has FIV - I couldn't burden Brad with him, and Mike loves his 'family', until I can find him a new one of course!  Speaking of which, still working on my camera issue, and as soon as that is worked out, I will have some pictures for you.

Here are Taffy's kittens, a pregnant mama I rescued and Linda was kind enough to foster her, and when Taffy had her babies, the kittens were offered a spot at a no-kill shelter, Pet Pride of New York, to be adopted out into great homes, which they are going to today.  I know this was hard for Linda to do, we get so attached to these animals.  Thank you Linda! 




Last evening I released the four cats that were trapped yesterday - one girl that was already spayed, and three boys.


Now, I haven't had an enemy since 1994 - and I found another job because of that, and before that it was in high school.  I was the new girl and another girl didn't like me because the boys were paying more attention to me than her.  She wanted to beat me up, and attempted to.  I am not good at conflict with people, girls especially.  Girls that hold grudges are the most evil of all.  I cannot fight, and I cry when I have conflict with someone.  I am a baby through and through.  I am the first person to say I am sorry, and I am the first person to keep trying to win someone's friendship.  We all want to be liked, I think. Some people are just mean spirited, and there is nothing I can do to change that.  I have to accept that.  With me, there is conflict with someone who is trying to help a situation I am involved in, this person is not trying to help me, which is fine, the only reason this person is involved in my life right now it to help out the situation.  With the Lollipop TNR project, communication with me from the get go was terrible.  This morning I was told I have no say in future trappings.  I was told to do my own trapping because the location I suggested has been 'eliminated' from the roster due to the owner of this gutted house who happened to come by once in a year, and told me to get my stuff out (the shelter for five or so cats), but one that I have since continued to feed because these poor animals aren't just going to move somewhere else.  They still need to be fed, and they still need to be neutered.  These cats are my territory, my babies, I am the one who has fed them every single day for years, sheltered them through harsh weather, and rescued so so many.  I was also told I don't know how to trap.  I am biting my tongue for today, and that is all I will say, for now.  But I do cherish the few true friends I have, and the many many wonderful acquaintences I've made, especially in the animal world. 

"Life is like a coin.  You can spend it any way you wish, but you only spend it once."

8 comments:

  1. Janine, I'm so sorry along with your sick pets you have to deal with a human giving you grief. Your intentions are nothing but pure and sincere for the kitties and if someone can't see that, there is definitely something wrong with them. I hope you consider me a friend 'cuz I definitely consider you one. You have pure goodness in your heart and sole. Nancy C.

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  2. I too know you have nothing in your heart but kindness and generosity for these "children" you care for. I am so sorry for you about Thunder, Scooter and Cosmo. And I agree with Nancy C. if someone cannot see that--they are blind.As always--you are in my prayers.

    Alan

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  3. Janine, you are probably better off without these folks. Many aspects of the Lollipop TNR project didn't sound like the Janine way of doing things. Now we know why.

    Trapping, transporting and processing up to ten cats at a time, often without comforting pats/words, and then releasing them without sufficient time for recovery/observation, might be efficient, by the numbers. However, it's both stressful and dangerous for the cats.

    While everyone involved with the animal rescue community means well, some of are more interested in the problem as an issue and others are more concerned with individual cats and populations. Sometimes these cultures clash. I don't think that ultimately there's a right or wrong side, but with two very different approaches, one industrial, one personal, conflicts are bound to arise.

    With a little help from your friends, readers and helpers it should still be possible to continue to select and TNR your kitties, gently, in ones and twos. The Janine way, with love and kindness for each individual life.

    Brad

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    1. Unfortunately Brad there is a time frame for this project and we were supposed to be done with the project by tomorrow. They have graciously agreed to give us til the end of the month and then the funding is gone. You are hearing one side of the story, and shouldn't make judgements about the rest of us of us out there in the trenches because of 2 people that don't get along. We are there because we want to help and love the cats. We have never taken more than 7, and that was only once! and they are being held overnight before release. Janine does the releasing. To assume we don't comfort or care for the cats is an incorrect assumption and I am personally offended by that. Doing the Janine way as you called it of 1 or 2 cats here and there is not going to stop hundreds of unwanted babies born to suffer out there. We have taken in a dozen moms from her, this past 2 months that each had 4-6 babies. Doing it your way, they would all still be out there giving birth. Before making judgements against someone out there everyday at 4:30am transporting to and from lollypop every day and spending her own money and time, perhaps you want to come out and help us and do more transporting. This was a once in a lifetime opportunity that Janine was given to get all these cats done. We are using expert trappers who have done this their whole lives and care for the animals dearly or they wouldn't be there doing this. We would be more than glad to have you come and help us if you want to to do things in a more loving way than you feel we are. Julie

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  4. Unfortunately Brad there is a time frame for this project and we were supposed to be done with the project by tomorrow. They have graciously agreed to give us til the end of the month and then the funding is gone. You are hearing one side of the story, and shouldn't make judgements about the rest of us of us out there in the trenches because of 2 people that don't get along. We are there because we want to help and love the cats. We have never taken more than 7, and that was only once! and they are being held overnight before release. Janine does the releasing. To assume we don't comfort or care for the cats is an incorrect assumption and I am personally offended by that. Doing the Janine way as you called it of 1 or 2 cats here and there is not going to stop hundreds of unwanted babies born to suffer out there. We have taken in a dozen moms from her, this past 2 months that each had 4-6 babies. Doing it your way, they would all still be out there giving birth. Before making judgements against someone out there everyday at 4:30am transporting to and from lollypop every day and spending her own money and time, perhaps you want to come out and help us and do more transporting. This was a once in a lifetime opportunity that Janine was given to get all these cats done. We are using expert trappers who have done this their whole lives and care for the animals dearly or they wouldn't be there doing this. We would be more than glad to have you come and help us if you want to to do things in a more loving way than you feel we are. Julie

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  5. Guys, this is a forum for me to speak freely about what my observations are in doing what I do. I try to keep anonymity for all, and I do welcome comments, good and bad. Different views and opinions are what makes the world go round, as they say. But I do know we all speak from the heart, and its all about the animals. Thats the focus. Everyone who reads my blog and comments are all unique and wonderful people with HUGE compassion for the animals, and I value everything you have to say! Thank you thank you thank you!

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  6. It's definitely a matter of 2 different ways - one is more for the mass and more effective - the other is more selective and controlled. Janine - you DEFINITELY know how to trap; Snowflake and Abby (resting in my home right now) would agree with me. Everyone has one ultimate interest in mind - the kitties and I commend ALL of you for your selfless efforts. I've riden with Janine a few times and know how hard it is, and yet she continues doing what she does because of her love for these animals. I thank you all. Nancy C.

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  7. I also thank you ALL...

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